A friend of mine lost her husband in the prime of her life. He had been a heart patient for years and she had looked after him i with exemplary care, love and devotion. After his death she did not feel like wearing good clothes or jewellery. She wanted to switch over to simple white sarees but her college going children dissuaded her from doing so on the plea that this would remind them of their bereavement whenever, they set their eyes on their mother.
She finally but this gave rise to shock waves in some quarters.
It set me thinking, what purpose is served by making the already dull life of a widow more so by her adhering to conventions. How many of the tradition bound widows have such a story of sacrifice behind them? Can my friends wearing fine clothes detract from appreciating the way the served her husbands for long years in her youth/ Why should eyebrows be raised at all?